Yesterday after driving into my neighborhood, I saw my son Ethan playing with a few of his friends. I slowed the car to say 'hi' to him and lowered the passenger side window. I stopped the car and Ethan walks over to talk.
"Hi daddy," he says to me (he's five). Then he looks over at his friends (a few I had not met yet...three kids from the neighborhood just a couple years older than him) and says, "Guys! Do you want to meet my dad? He's really nice."
All of the kids look at Ethan with a blank stare. No one says 'no' and no one says 'yes.' There is no response (which in itself is a response, I know).
I waved and said hi from the car and they all said, "Hi" back but that was it.
"Guys, do you want to talk to my dad?" he asks again, and again, no response.
I said, "That's ok...they don't need to talk to me."
Honestly, I felt touched that Ethan wanted his friends to meet me...that he likes me enough to want to tell others about me. The experience also reminds me of evangelism too. As Christians I think our sharing Christ with others lots of times is like Ethan with his friends. We're met with blank stares...and little if no response to our invitation for people to meet God. "Do want to talk to God? He's really nice." Crickets. Chirp. Chirp. Chirp.
But what if the onus wasn't on us asking the question or the response of the person. After all, if I was one of those kids, I'd think Ethan's request was pretty odd too. "No, I don't want to meet your dad. He's an adult and I'm a kid." There's just too big of a boundary to cross. And with people and God, when we expect people to respond favorably to our question, "Do you want to talk to God?" we're fooling ourselves. People may want to talk to God, but there is just too big of a chasm to cross...after all, God is God and we are humans.
The onus for the relationship lands on the one with the power. In my experience with Ethan, as the adult, I could have gotten out of my car, gone over to the kids and introduced myself. The chasm needs to be crossed by the one with the most power. Isn't that the way God does it too? Jesus says, "You did not choose me, I chose you." All of us come to God because God comes to us first. He bridges the gap between us.
Next time you want to introduce others to Christ, know that the responsibility for the relationship isn't on your shoulders. God is bridging the gap. We may be opening the door (Do you want to meet my dad?), but God is first moving toward our friends and us establishing relationships. We need to pray for our friends that their hearts are open to the movement of the Spirit in their lives.